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Rebloggable Grief and Mourning

Do you guys have any tips/links on how to write someone/some people grieving or mourning?
 Anonymous

Lesse…

Well, everyone deals with grief in different ways. There are some patterns, but it’s been found that dealing with things in different ways is actually the norm. I would recommend not making the people’s reactions too textbook, as that usually feels impersonal and unrealistic.  (I learned recently that the traditional ‘five stages of grief’ have been more or less debunked as a thing- which made me unreasonably happy, as I’d been unreasonably angry that that was considered the norm since childhood). 

I think the best way to write about someone grieving is to stay really, solidly in character. What does your character do when they are deeply sad? How do they mourn? Also, being able to deal with loss and move on is considered healthy- how emotionally healthy and able to cope are your characters? Your characters will have different reactions and different coping mechanisms, and I think relaying that to the audience is what makes the story feel real. Treat each character as their own person, and figure out what they’ll do based on the person that they are.

Hope that helps!
-Evvy 

And here are some links for further reading.

Here’s something from BBC debunking the five stages thing

Mayo Clinic on coping with grief

Coping with people dying from American Cancer Society

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